These are easy to read and understand and are beautifully presented.
Fathers often get short shrift, sometimes for good reason.
Today, we of the Fatherhood Vision Circle invite you to open to some
positive images of fatherhood:
A man loving himself and his future children enough to heal himself of
his past wounds before he chooses a woman to conceive with.
A man nourishing himself by choosing a good woman & committing to a
consciously-loving relationship into which to warmly welcome wished-for
A man nourishing his woman by speaking total truth, by taking 100% responsibility
for his reality, by supporting her highest good as well as his own, by
co-creating equally with her the safe nest of home & family.
A man who tells his 8-month pregnant wife how beautiful she is.
A man who creates lullabies to sing to his baby in the womb.
A man who also wants a home birth with a midwife & is completely present
during the labor & delivery.
A man who protects children, male & female, from genital mutilation
& sexual abuse.
A man who chooses to work half-time so he can parent half-time.
A man who changes all the diapers.
A man who dispenses with diapers & becomes the Permanent Pooper Scooper
for as many years as it takes.
A man who loves skin-to-skin contact with his babies.
A man who welcomes a family bed.
A man who carries his baby in a Snuggli or a Gerry-pack.
A man who plays the piano with one hand while holding his baby with the
A man who kills his television & reads his children stories.
A man who wrestles with his children and always lets them win.
A man who coaches co-ed sports teams for his children and, when they ask
who won, tells them that whoever had fun won.
A man who creates an alternative schooling for children who need it.
A man who will gladly teach, & gladly learn. A man who listens.
A man who says it's OK to cry, or be afraid, or angry, or excited.
A man who can cry, & be afraid, & be angry without violence or
A man who knows that he is the caretaker of Divine Souls, who come trailing
clouds of Glory from God who is their home.
A man who celebrates his childrens' differences from him & encourages
them to become whoever & whatever they wish to become.
A man who, when the time comes, can let the birds fly the nest & bless
them on their way out into the global family.
A man who fathers all children, & weeps for the fatherless.
These images are true & real. Such fathers are now among us.
Bless them & their fatherhood.
(Collected, arranged, and presented by Belden Johnson before
the Association for Pre- & Perinatal Psychology & Health, San Francisco,
December 6, 1999.)