The gentlebirth.org website is provided courtesy of
Ronnie Falcao, LM MS, a homebirth midwife in Mountain View, CA
An interactive resource for moms on easy steps they can take to reduce exposure to chemical toxins during pregnancy.
Other excellent resources about avoiding toxins during pregnancy
These are easy to read and understand and are beautifully presented.
I've thought so much about my c-section, wondering what I could have done differently. We had planned on a homebirth. I had total faith in my ability to birth my baby, but I allowed our midwife to intervene, and this started the domino effect of interventions which led to the section. In hindsight, I wish I was stronger then, thinking more rationally at 9cms after 16 hours of labour... I wish I had realized that there are other ways to get a posterior labour to progress, like a simple change of position. I put my faith in this midwife, but wasn't really given an option when she broke my waters.
At the hospital when we transported in, nobody even really talked to
me as they ran around setting up all the interventions. the epidural, monitor,
IV, making me get into bed. I was in transition and wanted to be somewhere
where I wasn't scared, and I was in an altered state, really, I was focusing
all my energy on trying to deal with my contractions and birthing my baby.
I know I had the right to question what they were doing, but did I have
the right to refuse the interventions? What I mean is, I didn't know how
to refuse everything they were doing. I wanted to say no, but I was so
confused!I feel like I was raped, in a sense, like all the medical professionals
involved took advantage of me while I was at my most vulnerable. Even the
midwife kept saying, it's for the baby's sake. Don't get yourself all worked
up by arguing with them. Thinking about it now, I wonder how this woman
still practices as a midwife, given that her attitude towards us changed
so radically for the worse in labour. We felt betrayed by her. Has anyone
had experiences similar to this? Has anyone been able to refuse interventions
even when everyone else there insists you must have them? Has anyone else
felt that horrific sense of powerlessness and intrusion?
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